I just need to vent this morning.
It all started when I was single, the question always was “when are you getting married?” “Hope you are not brushing off men because you are not getting any younger?” So because of all these questions and accusations I got involved in relationships I didn’t have business getting into just because I wanted to get married before it’s too late [ I don’t know who told me it’s ever too late with God].
Now I am married and it’s now questions again but on another scale this time – “Are you pregnant?” or even better “Congratulations!!!!” I wondered what I was being congratulated for until it dawned on me that due to my bloated stomach [it was my time of the month] one genius deduced that I was pregnant and started congratulating me. Sometimes these questions get me so depressed [sometimes I don't even want to get out of bed on Sundays] the next thing will be to start a quarrel with my husband who [God bless him] always insists that when it’s time God will bless us with children. He has always been a source of encouragement to me on this issue.
People we need to be more sensitive to other people’s feelings especially when it comes to getting married or having children. God’s time is always the best. So many impressionable young and not so young people have gotten into situations that right now they are praying everyday for God’s deliverance just because nosy people won't mind their business. If you don’t have any encouraging words to say to someone in those situations, the best thing is “SHUT UP” and keep praying for God’s intervention in their lives.
Most of all these accusing questions come from our families, friends, brethren in the church. Some even start prophelying [if there is such a word] and call it prophesying. Please all these needs to stop. I can’t count how many people have gotten into deep trouble due to all these prophesies because they want to make something happen and not wait for God’s timing.
While single, I was introduced to all sorts of men, physically or through the internet who were anxious to get an American green card and will say all sorts of sweet words to get here, thank God for deliverances from such ones. How about the ones who were already here in the States but just needed a “Sugar mummy” who will take care of them and their families back home or a sex buddy. It takes the grace of God to swift the wheat from the chaff and when it was time God brought my husband into my life and I have no regrets.
God already told me the amount of children I am going to have and I stand on His promises. He even gave me their names so I know in His Time even if it takes years [if Jesus tarries], the children will come and I am not going to second guess or try to make it happen in my own way and timing so please people asking me if I am pregnant. I have always had big tummy, anyone who knew me years ago will testify because it runs in our family and I have tried various exercises to no avail and spent money on body suits, shapewears, spanx, Dr Rey etc still no improvement. I do know when I become pregnant, it will be apparent to everyone so I beg you by the mercies of God, stop the inquisition and just continue to thank God for my children.
Pray and thank God continuously for those waiting for the manifestation of God’s promises in their lives and stop your accusing questions, the last time I checked the accuser of the brethren is still the devil and I don’t think you want to be associated with him in any shape or form.
God bless you as you receive this admonition in love and make corrections where necessary.
Shalom!!!
You speak the truth oooo sis Scholly.....as if they will not eventually hear it when it happens. I'm not sure why people cant be polite and mind their business. The funny part i laugh about is that most of these people eagerly "anticipating" what THEY think should be next in your life also have BIGGER things that they should be anticipating and praying to GOd for in their own lives.
ReplyDeleteAs a single woman who no longer has school as an excuse, I have gotten extremely proficient at telling people...very politely ....to mind their business as where I am right now is where i'm supposed to be right now and am very happy there.
Aunty mi.... U speak the truth.... I m tired of people asking me when I m gonna get married... Some even have the nerve to ask mi if was a lesbian.... Or even have had the nerve to call my mother.... But I trust iyamuti she gave the answer they were looking for..... People especially church people need to learn to myob n leave us alone.... Half of their marriages have failed anyways y not focus third attention on their issues n take their nose out of mine. I know when is time God will seal the deal the deal cooncerning me .
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ReplyDeleteI understand your situations because I have been there. Sometimes it seems these same people don't have problems of their own and rather than concentrate on that chooses to play god in other people's lives. Infact if possible some of them will want to come into my bedroom and see how they can help my husband make love to me so we can have babies fast. Some of the advice i have heard from such women bothers on the ridiculous. Some are suggesting the best position to be during and after lovemaking. Some are giving me references to their Obygyn as if those ones are handing out babies every day. Just continue to trust God and ignore their misguided accusations/inquiries about your life. As Saiko said, politely tell them to continue praying for you and in due time the answer will come. Take care Sisters. I love your contributions.